This book is literally what its title says it is: A Manual for Happiness.
You must have noticed or experienced, we often behave quite differently from what we feel inside.
We miss someone badly, yet behave indifferently when they are around.
We hate someone but can’t express it to them, rather sometimes oppositely behave how we feel about them. Have you never worked under a boss you hate?
We love someone and yet act quite opposite to what we feel towards them.
We feel like saying I am sorry, but end up blaming the other person again.
We are complex psychological beings. Aren’t we?
When it comes to happiness, it stands truer. Our behavior is often quite different from what’s going inside in our minds:
We do not feel happy yet often act as if we are.
We do not know how to be happy.
We wait for others to make us happy. Women profiles on match making websites are full of phrases like: “looking for someone who can make me happy/ smile/ laugh”.
We laugh and smile and yet feel hollow and empty inside of us.
We, at some stage in our life time, do not want to be happy; we trade happiness for other lesser feelings.
We do not know what truly forms our behavior.
With ultimate clarity in his mind, Hassan Bukhari takes his readers to discover eight layers including behavior, responsible for creating our behaviors particularly, happiness. Not only he explains what these layers are, he also shares his wisdom how the readers can work on each layer, one by one to finally arrive at the expected and desired outcome behavior: happiness. He has made simple enough to be understood by everyone, a complex model from modern Psychology and Neuro-Linguistic Programing.
The author shares the key, tools and exact methodologies to create a permanent change in our behaviors (from being unhappy to happy) by addressing the ingredients responsible for creating them.
With a little pondering on your life; with a strong decision to live happily and a regular little practice with “what to do” activities shared after each chapter, you will know and learn the essence of being genuinely happy.
You will feel certainty and clarity about being happy.
You will find it easy to be happy by just making small shifts in your mental layers.
You will learn to know, examine and alter your Identities, Beliefs and Values that determine your happiness.
You will know how your Attitude, Emotions and Feelings affect your interaction with yourself as well as others.
You will begin your journey towards your inner most layer i.e., your “Zaat.”
You will gain a profound understanding about why you behave in a certain manner and what is going on underneath your behavior with others.
Using the same model, you will be able to examine and alter your several other than happiness behaviors like anger, depression, motivation, over-eating and feeling like “to do” or “not to do” something particular.
You will gain a deep yet simple understanding about life.